CHILD PSYCHOLOGY- IT'S EASIER TO BUILD UP A CHILD THAN TO REPAIR AN ADULT

A CHILD IS AN UNCUT DIAMOND.

                                                    - AUSTIN O'MALLEY

THE MIND OF A CHILD IS FRAGILE. THEIR EMOTIONS TOUCH THEIR FUTURE. AND YOUR WORDS SHAPE THEIR DESTINY. 

FROM THE WOMB OF THE MOTHER TILL ADULTHOOD, THE CHILD IS INFLUENCED BY HIS PARENTS AS WELL AS THOSE WHO SURROUND HIM. IT'S IMPORTANT TO UNDERSTAND THAT CHILD ACQUIRES HABITS AND TRAITS AS WE SHOW THEM. SCHOOL EDUCATION WILL NOT ESSENTIALLY HELP HIS PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT. IT'S THE PARENTING THAT PLAYS A CRUCIAL ROLE IN A CHILD'S LIFE.

A CHILD IS A GREAT IMITATOR - WILL FOLLOW YOUR ACTIONS. SO IT'S BETTER FOR PARENTS TO PRACTICE WHAT THEY PREACH TO CHILD. IF YOU AREN'T GETTING UP EARLY IN MORNING, DON'T EXPECT YOUR CHILD TOO. AND IF YOU ARE SHORT TEMPERED, HOW CAN THE CHILD STAY CALM!!! 

IF THE CHILD IS STUBBORN, IT MEANS YOU HAVE BEEN FULFILLING HIS EVERY WISH BEFORE YOU SUDDENLY STOPPED LISTENING TO THEM. JUST TELL THEM CALMLY WITH A REASON THAT WHY THEIR DESIRES CAN'T BE  EXECUTED AND IF THEY SHOW ANGER / LIE ON THE FLOOR , LET THEM... JUST IGNORE THEM FOR A FEW MINUTES. IT'S THEIR MECHANISM TO SEEK ATTENTION AND WIN THE ARGUMENT ; YOUR IGNORANCE WILL RENDER THEM POWERLESS. HANDLE THEM WITH CARE !!

SIMILARLY, CHILDREN ARE FUSSY ABOUT FOOD. THEY PICK AND CHOOSE WHAT GOES TO THEIR MOUTH. IT'S THE PARENTS WHO CREATE THEIR TASTE THE WAY IT IS. IF YOU BOTTLE FEED YOUR CHILD, HE WILL NEVER BREAST FEED AGAIN BECAUSE IT'S EASIER FOR HIM TO PASSIVELY DRINK FROM BOTTLE RATHER THAN PUTTING IN EFFORT FOR BREAST FEEDING.AND ALAS!!R.I.P. NUTRITION.....  DON'T ENCOURAGE THE EMPTY CALORIES ( JUNK FOODS, CHIPS, COKE ETC....) TO REPLACE THEIR MEALS. AGAIN, IF THEY CRY AND REJECT THE FOOD, LET THEM DO THAT AND JUST SIT BACK, RELAX AND IGNORE THEM. THEY WILL EVENTUALLY COME BACK TO THE FOOD AS THE HUNGER WILL DRIVE THEM AND THEY HAVE NO OPTION BUT TO ACCEPT WHAT IS BEING SERVED TO THEM. 

NEVER SCOLD OR PUNISH YOUR CHILD. ALWAYS POSITIVELY REINFORCE THEIR BEHAVIOR. REWARD THEM AND APPRECIATE FOR THEIR GOOD ACTIONS. BUT NEVER YELL AND SCREAM AS THIS WILL MAKE THEM EMOTIONALLY WEAK AND FEEBLE. 

WHATEVER HABITS YOU WANT TO INCULCATE IN YOUR CHILD, PRACTICE THEM YOURSELF FIRST. LIKE WASHING HANDS THOROUGHLY BEFORE EACH MEAL AND WHENEVER YOU COME HOME FROM OUTSIDE, SAYING THANK YOU AND SORRY, BEING POLITE AND CALM, SHARING AND CARING ETC......

NEVER CRITICISE OR COMPARE YOUR CHILD WITH THE SIBLINGS - IT DEPLETES THE POWER OF THEIR SOUL. DON'T ATTACH FEARS WITH THEIR ACTION. LIKE TELLING THEM IF THEY DON'T EAT , THE DOCTOR WILL GIVE THEM INJECTION. AND THEN THE PARENTS HAVE DIFFICULT TIME IN DOCTOR'S CLINIC WHEN THEIR CHILD NEEDS CARE.... WHO'S THE CULPRIT, HUH ?? 

LET YOUR CHILD BECOME RESPONSIBLE FOR HIS ACTIONS. LET HIM KEEP HIS CLOTHES AND SHOES READY IN THE NIGHT FOR THE NEXT MORNING, LET HIM TIDY HIS HAIR, LET HIM TRIM HIS NAILS, LET HIM SET ALARMS, LET HIM WASH HIMSELF AND DRESS UP.......... GRADUALLY HE WILL START TAKING CARE OF HIS WELL-BEING.

LET YOUR CHILD HANDLE CONVERSATIONS WITH SIBLINGS; IF HE IS YOUR ONLY CHILD, TAKE HIM TO PUBLIC PLAY AREAS - IT IS HERE THAT THEY LEARN TO LIVE IN HARMONY WITH OTHERS; TAKE TURNS ; SHARE THEIR TOYS; RESPECT EACH OTHER'S SPACE AND RIGHTS ETC.... 

THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO IS TO PAMPER YOUR CHILD. IT WILL SOCIALLY DESTROY YOUR CHILD. UNDERSTAND THEIR LEARNING STYLE ( VISUAL / LISTEN / TACTILE ) FOR EACH CHILD HAS HIS UNIQUE LEARNING STYLE!!

CHILDHOOD DEPRESSION IS NOT UNCOMMON. IT IS IMPORTANT TO MAKE THEM FEEL WANTED. SO IT'S ESSENTIAL THAT AS A PARENT , YOU SHOULD SPEND AMPLE  QUALITY TIME WITH YOUR CHILDREN. IN THE ERA WHERE BOTH PARENTS ARE WORKING , THE CHILD IS LEFT TO THE NANNY FOR THE UPBRINGING !! SO WHAT DO YOU EXPECT THEM TO BECOME ?! 

THE ENVIRONMENT AT HOME / SCHOOL, THE KIND OF RELATIONSHIP THAT THE PARENTS HAVE WITH OTHER MEMBERS OF THE HOUSE AND WITH THE SOCIETY; ALL THIS AFFECTS THE MENTAL STATE OF THE CHILD'S PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT. TO GET AN INSIGHT OF HIS THOUGHTS AND PERCEPTION , WATCH HIS DRAWINGS..... CHILDREN EXPRESS MUCH MORE THROUGH WHAT THEY DRAW RATHER THAN EMOTING THEM VERBALLY. IT'S LIKE THEIR SYMBOLIC PLAY AND DISPLAY OF UNCONSCIOUS FEAR. LIKE THE SIZE OF THE PERSON / THING WILL BE BIG IF IT IS CLOSE TO HIS HEART.

BE THE ROLE MODEL FOR WHAT YOU WANT YOUR CHILD TO BE LIKE. YOU SHOULD MEAN WHATEVER YOU SAY AND SHOULD BE CONSISTENT WITH IT FOR IT'S CREDIBILITY BY THE CHILD.  GIVE THEM CHOICES TO CHOOSE AND EXPLORE THEIR OWN WORLD. YOUR CHILD IS ONLY AS BRIGHT AS YOU ALLOW THEM TO BE. TEACH THEM TO SPREAD THEIR WINGS TO FLY BUT SHOULD NEVER LOSE THE SIGHT OF GROUND !! 

AFTER ALL, UNDERSTANDING CHILD'S PSYCHOLOGY IS NOT AN EASY TASK. ESPECIALLY THE MODERN TECH SAVVY CHILDREN !!! YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT THEY ARE UPTO, THE NEXT MINUTE !;);) 
COMPLAINING THAT THE CHILD IS ALWAYS USING YOUR CELL PHONE / TABLET. / IS GLUED TO THE TELEVISION / YOUTUBE AND HAS BECOME A COUCH POTATO... HE HASN'T EARNED IT HIMSELF, HAS HE ???  SO WHO'S TO BE BLAMED FOR THIS ?? AGAIN.........